Comments on: My Husband Thinks I Am Horrible? http://hasslefreeinsurance.net/ask-hfiq/my-husband-thinks-i-am-horrible Compare Multiple Quote - Save alot of Do$h Mon, 30 Nov 2009 05:46:29 -0800 hourly 1 By: ♥ Emy & Jess's Mum ♥ http://hasslefreeinsurance.net/ask-hfiq/my-husband-thinks-i-am-horrible/comment-page-1#comment-11856 ♥ Emy & Jess's Mum ♥ Tue, 24 Nov 2009 20:06:47 +0000 http://hasslefreeinsurance.net/my-husband-thinks-i-am-horrible/#comment-11856 It sounds like you would be better off without him hun, after all you pretty much do it alone anyway! sending you lots of *hugs*, you'll make the right choice for you and your kids! xx It sounds like you would be better off without him hun, after all you pretty much do it alone anyway!

sending you lots of *hugs*, you’ll make the right choice for you and your kids!

xx

]]> By: Finally a SAHM! http://hasslefreeinsurance.net/ask-hfiq/my-husband-thinks-i-am-horrible/comment-page-1#comment-11855 Finally a SAHM! Tue, 24 Nov 2009 19:08:37 +0000 http://hasslefreeinsurance.net/my-husband-thinks-i-am-horrible/#comment-11855 sounds just like my bf ignores my son all the time its like im pulling teeth with a spoon to get money then i get told how to raise him and what to do and i got told becuase i said someting i dont even remember but he was going to crash the car so i could go through the windshield and i was like well ur sons in the car to and he was like hell be fine yeah ok u have the right to be unhappy...and u have the right to say something and speak up for yourself and they are your parents who cares...tell him if he payed attetion to u and helped out then u wouldnt go and hide like i said my bf is the same way and i feel ur pain u have a right to be unhappy and bitch all the time if u really want to my advice is there is something going on if he was not like this before try talking to him and talk often if still after talking and trying and pointing out what hes doing and when maybe video tape or recored what goes on so he can see it for himself sometimes thats an eye opener but if that dosent work go to consuling and take stuff from there sounds just like my bf
ignores my son all the time
its like im pulling teeth with a spoon to get money
then i get told how to raise him and what to do
and i got told becuase i said someting i dont even remember but he was going to crash the car so i could go through the windshield and i was like well ur sons in the car to and he was like hell be fine yeah ok
u have the right to be unhappy…and u have the right to say something and speak up for yourself

and they are your parents who cares…tell him if he payed attetion to u and helped out then u wouldnt go and hide

like i said my bf is the same way and i feel ur pain

u have a right to be unhappy and bitch all the time if u really want to

my advice is there is something going on if he was not like this before
try talking to him
and talk often
if still after talking and trying and pointing out what hes doing and when

maybe video tape or recored what goes on so he can see it for himself sometimes thats an eye opener

but if that dosent work go to consuling and take stuff from there

]]> By: Brayden's Mommy http://hasslefreeinsurance.net/ask-hfiq/my-husband-thinks-i-am-horrible/comment-page-1#comment-11854 Brayden's Mommy Tue, 24 Nov 2009 18:11:25 +0000 http://hasslefreeinsurance.net/my-husband-thinks-i-am-horrible/#comment-11854 that sounds like my b.f on a occasion....he goes off whenever he likes, but when i want to go off. which is like1 time every 3 months. he refuses and gets mad. im like seriously.. i cant give you advice on how to help, but you DEFINITELY have a reason to be unhappy that sounds like my b.f on a occasion….he goes off whenever he likes, but when i want to go off. which is like1 time every 3 months. he refuses and gets mad. im like seriously.. i cant give you advice on how to help, but you DEFINITELY have a reason to be unhappy

]]> By: Ani http://hasslefreeinsurance.net/ask-hfiq/my-husband-thinks-i-am-horrible/comment-page-1#comment-11853 Ani Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:12:10 +0000 http://hasslefreeinsurance.net/my-husband-thinks-i-am-horrible/#comment-11853 Frankly part of it is, your husband's a jerk and taking advantage of your (and your children's) dependence on his income and benefits. Secondly, this is part of a larger problem in society. Over the last 60 years or so, being a wife and mother has no longer been seen as a actual "job" the demands of women have become more (they are expected to be a wife, mother and work all full time if not more, otherwise they are seen as lazy). Where the expectations of men have become less (if a man even sticks around) he is ONLY expected to work a job, but has no responsibilities for the children he assisted in making. Third, why would you have more children with this man if he didn't already take care of the children you had? Other then telling him flat out that HE helped make the children and HE needs to help in taking care of them (other then financially). This isn't him just being stressed if he was like this when you were working. Tell him your kids need QUALITY time (mean getting his butt off the video games). If he complains your spending too much time at your parents house, why doesn't he come with you? If you and HIS children are THAT much of a burden to him, maybe he doesn't need to be around. Frankly part of it is, your husband’s a jerk and taking advantage of your (and your children’s) dependence on his income and benefits.

Secondly, this is part of a larger problem in society. Over the last 60 years or so, being a wife and mother has no longer been seen as a actual “job” the demands of women have become more (they are expected to be a wife, mother and work all full time if not more, otherwise they are seen as lazy). Where the expectations of men have become less (if a man even sticks around) he is ONLY expected to work a job, but has no responsibilities for the children he assisted in making.

Third, why would you have more children with this man if he didn’t already take care of the children you had?

Other then telling him flat out that HE helped make the children and HE needs to help in taking care of them (other then financially). This isn’t him just being stressed if he was like this when you were working. Tell him your kids need QUALITY time (mean getting his butt off the video games). If he complains your spending too much time at your parents house, why doesn’t he come with you? If you and HIS children are THAT much of a burden to him, maybe he doesn’t need to be around.

]]> By: ♥GGM's Alter Ego:Mizz Beezy http://hasslefreeinsurance.net/ask-hfiq/my-husband-thinks-i-am-horrible/comment-page-1#comment-11852 ♥GGM's Alter Ego:Mizz Beezy Tue, 24 Nov 2009 16:22:18 +0000 http://hasslefreeinsurance.net/my-husband-thinks-i-am-horrible/#comment-11852 You don't deserve to be unhappy like this. I want to tell you to leave him, but I know that part of your heart loves him and wants there to be hope. You don’t deserve to be unhappy like this. I want to tell you to leave him, but I know that part of your heart loves him and wants there to be hope.

]]> By: CCandBB http://hasslefreeinsurance.net/ask-hfiq/my-husband-thinks-i-am-horrible/comment-page-1#comment-11851 CCandBB Tue, 24 Nov 2009 16:11:56 +0000 http://hasslefreeinsurance.net/my-husband-thinks-i-am-horrible/#comment-11851 I know what you are going through. This may sound bad, but I am kind of glad that someone in the family knows what I mean now when I complain about taking care of my daughter all the time by myself. It sucks to feel like a "single parent" when you are married. And not being able to take a shower alone is the worst! If I want one it has to be really late at night or a quick one in the five minutes I wake up before her. But I know it is probably even harder for you since the baby doesn't sleep as much. Plus I know he fell asleep sitting up or on the couch alot when he was supposed to be watching the girls. Asleep enough that someone could walk into the house, sit on the couch and play with the girls for over half an hour before he even noticed! Just remember that there are grandparents right down the street who would love to help out for a couple hours a week. That could give you the chance to take a nap, take a shower, get groceries alone etc. The small simple things we used to take for granted! I know it is hard for me to remember it too, and I don't want to give my daughter up, but we should both take advantage of all the close family members who would help out in a second because not everyone is that lucky. I know what you are going through. This may sound bad, but I am kind of glad that someone in the family knows what I mean now when I complain about taking care of my daughter all the time by myself.
It sucks to feel like a “single parent” when you are married. And not being able to take a shower alone is the worst! If I want one it has to be really late at night or a quick one in the five minutes I wake up before her. But I know it is probably even harder for you since the baby doesn’t sleep as much.
Plus I know he fell asleep sitting up or on the couch alot when he was supposed to be watching the girls. Asleep enough that someone could walk into the house, sit on the couch and play with the girls for over half an hour before he even noticed!
Just remember that there are grandparents right down the street who would love to help out for a couple hours a week. That could give you the chance to take a nap, take a shower, get groceries alone etc. The small simple things we used to take for granted! I know it is hard for me to remember it too, and I don’t want to give my daughter up, but we should both take advantage of all the close family members who would help out in a second because not everyone is that lucky.

]]> By: ♥Ricky♥ ♥§rs♥ ♥ωϊƒε♥ ☺RJRJ☺ http://hasslefreeinsurance.net/ask-hfiq/my-husband-thinks-i-am-horrible/comment-page-1#comment-11850 ♥Ricky♥ ♥§rs♥ ♥ωϊƒε♥ ☺RJRJ☺ Tue, 24 Nov 2009 15:25:49 +0000 http://hasslefreeinsurance.net/my-husband-thinks-i-am-horrible/#comment-11850 I am so sorry you are going thru this.. really. You are not horrible, he is treating you horrible, but you are not horrible. I really don't know what to say on it though. You asked if you are "allowed to be unhappy" & that is so sad. I know people may disagree... they just jump & say "leave him" so I might get TD's. You don't mention wanting to leave him & if I am not mistaken you believe marriage is sacred & divorce should only be the result of infidelity... I believe the same. If he was like this in the beginning I'd say you are out of luck, he would probably stay an azz, but since he was not like this before, there must be something going on. Big-time. No one just becomes a royal jerk over night. I think ya'll would really benefit from counseling. It may be a long hard road, but ya'll may be able to get it back to how it was. Also, he may really take a look at himself when he is acting like a jerk in front of someone else. It is easy for him to treat you however in the privacy of your home, but in counseling ya'll will have a "mediator" & he will most likely look in the mirror & realize he is wearing you down emotionally. G&S do not need all this & he needs to see that. They deserve a daddy & mommy that love each other as much as ya'll love them. Good luck in whatever you choose & I will pray for ya'll. I am so sorry you are going thru this.. really. You are not horrible, he is treating you horrible, but you are not horrible. I really don’t know what to say on it though. You asked if you are “allowed to be unhappy” & that is so sad. I know people may disagree… they just jump & say “leave him” so I might get TD’s. You don’t mention wanting to leave him & if I am not mistaken you believe marriage is sacred & divorce should only be the result of infidelity… I believe the same. If he was like this in the beginning I’d say you are out of luck, he would probably stay an azz, but since he was not like this before, there must be something going on. Big-time. No one just becomes a royal jerk over night. I think ya’ll would really benefit from counseling. It may be a long hard road, but ya’ll may be able to get it back to how it was. Also, he may really take a look at himself when he is acting like a jerk in front of someone else. It is easy for him to treat you however in the privacy of your home, but in counseling ya’ll will have a “mediator” & he will most likely look in the mirror & realize he is wearing you down emotionally. G&S do not need all this & he needs to see that. They deserve a daddy & mommy that love each other as much as ya’ll love them. Good luck in whatever you choose & I will pray for ya’ll.

]]> By: *Chandler's mommy 1-27-09* http://hasslefreeinsurance.net/ask-hfiq/my-husband-thinks-i-am-horrible/comment-page-1#comment-11849 *Chandler's mommy 1-27-09* Tue, 24 Nov 2009 15:21:41 +0000 http://hasslefreeinsurance.net/my-husband-thinks-i-am-horrible/#comment-11849 sounds alot like andrew.. im sorry you are going threw this!... yes you have a right to be upset i say leave him if ya can.. or if you want to work it out maybe counseling? sounds alot like andrew.. im sorry you are going threw this!… yes you have a right to be upset i say leave him if ya can.. or if you want to work it out maybe counseling?

]]> By: «♦ßяíttαηÿ♦» ☆ http://hasslefreeinsurance.net/ask-hfiq/my-husband-thinks-i-am-horrible/comment-page-1#comment-11848 «♦ßяíttαηÿ♦» ☆ Tue, 24 Nov 2009 14:33:40 +0000 http://hasslefreeinsurance.net/my-husband-thinks-i-am-horrible/#comment-11848 I couldn't even get through reading half of this without feeling sick to my stomach. You do not deserve to be treated this way! Have you considered marriage counseling? Would he be willing to try that? I don't think just getting up and leaving would be the right answer but on the other hand you and your kids deserve to be treated better than this. I couldn’t even get through reading half of this without feeling sick to my stomach. You do not deserve to be treated this way! Have you considered marriage counseling? Would he be willing to try that? I don’t think just getting up and leaving would be the right answer but on the other hand you and your kids deserve to be treated better than this.

]]> By: ~CriCkeT~ http://hasslefreeinsurance.net/ask-hfiq/my-husband-thinks-i-am-horrible/comment-page-1#comment-11847 ~CriCkeT~ Tue, 24 Nov 2009 14:32:16 +0000 http://hasslefreeinsurance.net/my-husband-thinks-i-am-horrible/#comment-11847 Wow! He sounds like a complete, total jerk! He doesn't even deserve the title to be a husband and let alone a father! Sounds like he has serious control issues. You do NOT deserve to be treated like this and neither does your children. You should explain to him that NO matter if you have a job or not you are still at home ALL day long with the children and that is no easy task- especially when two little ones both need your attention almost the entire time of the day. Tell him that you are TRYING to get your job back and until then, he needs to respect that you are staying at home with your children to take care of them. If I were you, I would go to your parents house and stay there until he realizes that he is wrong. I am terribly sorry you are having to go through this. But really, he is no father and he is no husband. Go to your parents house. Seriously. This guy is a jerk wad and needs a reality check, and maybe going to your parents house will make him realize- then on the other hand if that doesnt help, I would consider not being with him- as this is really not a marriage- and it takes two people to be a parent- one parent should NOT have all this on them. Good luck, sweetie! Wow! He sounds like a complete, total jerk!

He doesn’t even deserve the title to be a husband and let alone a father! Sounds like he has serious control issues. You do NOT deserve to be treated like this and neither does your children.

You should explain to him that NO matter if you have a job or not you are still at home ALL day long with the children and that is no easy task- especially when two little ones both need your attention almost the entire time of the day. Tell him that you are TRYING to get your job back and until then, he needs to respect that you are staying at home with your children to take care of them.

If I were you, I would go to your parents house and stay there until he realizes that he is wrong. I am terribly sorry you are having to go through this. But really, he is no father and he is no husband. Go to your parents house. Seriously. This guy is a jerk wad and needs a reality check, and maybe going to your parents house will make him realize- then on the other hand if that doesnt help, I would consider not being with him- as this is really not a marriage- and it takes two people to be a parent- one parent should NOT have all this on them. Good luck, sweetie!

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